sexuality

sexuality

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genesis

First and foremost, my identity as a gay man is difficult. I struggled in reflecting on this as to whether or not this is actually a “facet of my culture,” but if culture is something that includes ways of thinking and looking at the world, as Gates is suggesting, then this is something I feel the need to keep in mind. I struggle in sharing this identity in public on two levels. First, there is a part of me that feels like it is not necessarily anyone’s business but mine. This might stem from any number of things, but I am just not the sort of person that broadcasts my personal life. Second, I recognize that I am in a minority that is viewed negatively by some portion of the population, and I am frankly scared of the rejection I might receive from classmates, peers, or even strangers on the street. By no way does this facet of my culture make me feel ashamed. I actually feel quite comfortable sharing this portion of my life with the people close to me, and I frequently have discussions with friends and family about this aspect of my culture they do not have in common with me.
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My family holds traditionalist views about personal relationships. My grandpa could not accept the idea that my uncle is homosexual. Whenever my uncle’s partner joins us for a family event, my grandpa does not speak a word to him. I think he is using this as a way to convince himself that his son really is not gay. This is a part of the culture that I grew up in that I choose not to share with most people. I have been able to distance myself from these ideas and would not want people to know that there are members of my family who think this way, or that I was raised with these prejudices around me.

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