**************************************************************************** SE-11 HOW HAVING SON OR DAUGHTER AGE 19 OR OLDER LIVING HERE WORKS OUT FOR PARENT This form is filled out by respondents who have a son or daughter age 19 or older living in their household. If there is more than one such son or daughter the questions refer to the focal child who was randomly selected in question 455. In some cases where a respondent has both a child away at college and a child living in the household, the selected focal child is the one away at college, and form SE-11 is not filled out. **************************************************************************** 5061 E11STAT Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 1-Received Completed 725 8.79 2-Received Refused/Missing 73 0.96 4-Inapplicable 11945 86.98 5-Received - terminated 22 0.30 9-Questionnaire not received 252 2.97 5062-5063 E1101 Q.1 Taking things all together, how does having your son/daughter living here work out for you? Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Very poorly 19 0.17 02 14 0.18 03 19 0.20 04 60 0.73 05 87 1.02 06 138 1.74 07-Very well 392 4.85 96-Inapplicable 12025 88.02 99-No answer 263 3.09 Q.2 How many days last week did you eat breakfast or dinner with (him/her)? NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-205 ______________________________________________________________________________ 5064-5065 E1102A a. Breakfast Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 00-None 297 3.60 01-Once 92 1.08 02 84 1.05 03 42 0.51 04 30 0.31 05 27 0.29 06 16 0.21 07-7 times/everyday 121 1.58 96-Inapplicable 12023 88.01 99-No answer 285 3.35 5066-5067 E1102B b. Dinner Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 00-None 113 1.30 01-Once 56 0.61 02 53 0.60 03 67 0.94 04 64 0.67 05 82 1.05 06 45 0.62 07-7 times/everyday 237 2.99 96-Inapplicable 12021 87.97 98-Don't know 1 0.03 99-No answer 278 3.23 Q.3 How often do you spend time with him/her? 5068-5069 E1103A a. in leisure activities away from home (picnics, movies, sports, etc.) Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never or rarely 265 3.12 02-Once a month or less 178 2.25 03-Several times a month 101 1.22 04-About once a week 65 0.80 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-206 ______________________________________________________________________________ 05-Several times a week 57 0.73 06-Almost every day 65 0.77 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 268 3.16 5070-5071 E1103B b. at home working on a project or playing together Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never or rarely 285 3.35 02-Once a month or less 140 1.66 03-Several times a month 86 1.10 04-About once a week 70 0.85 05-Several times a week 77 1.07 06-Almost every day 69 0.79 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 272 3.22 5072-5073 E1103C c. having private talks with him/her Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never or rarely 97 1.23 02-Once a month or less 122 1.54 03-Several times a month 131 1.57 04-About once a week 102 1.25 05-Several times a week 117 1.40 06-Almost every day 162 1.86 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 268 3.20 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-207 ______________________________________________________________________________ Q.4 How do you think each of the following parts of your life might change if this son/daughter were not living here with you? 5074 E1104A a. Social life Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 1-Much worse 56 0.74 2-Somewhat worse 76 0.98 3-Same 510 6.28 4-Somewhat better 64 0.66 5-Much better 25 0.26 6-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 8-Don't know 1 0.01 9-No answer 267 3.13 5075 E1104B b. Overall happiness Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 1-Much worse 91 1.13 2-Somewhat worse 157 2.03 3-Same 380 4.65 4-Somewhat better 73 0.80 5-Much better 24 0.24 6-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 8-Don't know 2 0.02 9-No answer 272 3.20 5076 E1104C c. Privacy Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 1-Much worse 26 0.31 2-Somewhat worse 28 0.31 3-Same 408 5.03 4-Somewhat better 176 2.22 5-Much better 87 0.97 6-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 8-Don't know 2 0.02 9-No answer 272 3.19 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-208 ______________________________________________________________________________ 5077 E1104D d. Relationship with him/her Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 1-Much worse 41 0.48 2-Somewhat worse 68 0.84 3-Same 513 6.44 4-Somewhat better 74 0.86 5-Much better 32 0.26 6-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 8-Don't know 2 0.02 9-No answer 269 3.16 5078 E1104E e. Companionship Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 1-Much worse 64 0.70 2-Somewhat worse 159 2.06 3-Same 429 5.31 4-Somewhat better 45 0.53 5-Much better 26 0.25 6-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 8-Don't know 2 0.02 9-No answer 274 3.18 5079 E1104F f. Finances Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 1-Much worse 38 0.38 2-Somewhat worse 60 0.75 3-Same 415 4.94 4-Somewhat better 154 2.11 5-Much better 60 0.67 6-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 8-Don't know 1 0.01 9-No answer 271 3.19 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-209 ______________________________________________________________________________ Q.5 In the last year, how often have you had open disagreements with him/her about each of the following? 5080-5081 E1105A a. how he/she dresses Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 538 6.57 02-Once a month or less 102 1.32 03-Several times a month 23 0.23 04-About once a week 14 0.14 05-Several times a week 10 0.16 06-Almost everyday 18 0.15 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 294 3.48 5082-5083 E1105B b. boyfriend/girlfriend Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 543 6.74 02-Once a month or less 105 1.16 03-Several times a month 20 0.32 04-About once a week 19 0.21 05-Several times a week 7 0.05 06-Almost everyday 11 0.08 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 294 3.48 5084-5085 E1105C c. his/her friends Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 553 6.82 02-Once a month or less 94 1.10 03-Several times a month 27 0.36 04-About once a week 17 0.17 05-Several times a week 4 0.04 06-Almost everyday 8 0.06 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 296 3.51 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-210 ______________________________________________________________________________ 5086-5087 E1105D d. how late he/she stays out at night Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 524 6.40 02-Once a month or less 108 1.38 03-Several times a month 36 0.38 04-About once a week 18 0.25 05-Several times a week 9 0.08 06-Almost everyday 9 0.06 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 295 3.50 5088-5089 E1105E e. getting a job or a better job Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 550 6.73 02-Once a month or less 78 1.00 03-Several times a month 30 0.32 04-About once a week 20 0.25 05-Several times a week 7 0.09 06-Almost everyday 17 0.14 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 297 3.52 5090-5091 E1105F f. helping around the house Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 385 4.63 02-Once a month or less 138 1.84 03-Several times a month 90 1.09 04-About once a week 40 0.48 05-Several times a week 25 0.31 06-Almost everyday 25 0.23 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 296 3.49 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-211 ______________________________________________________________________________ 5092-5093 E1105G g. his/her sexual behavior Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 638 7.80 02-Once a month or less 36 0.46 03-Several times a month 9 0.10 04-About once a week 3 0.04 05-Several times a week 9 0.07 06-Almost everyday 3 0.02 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 301 3.57 5094-5095 E1105H h. his/her drinking, smoking, or drug use Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 602 7.29 02-Once a month or less 57 0.74 03-Several times a month 16 0.19 04-About once a week 15 0.19 05-Several times a week 5 0.04 06-Almost everyday 11 0.13 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 293 3.46 5096-5097 E1105I i. money Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 517 6.31 02-Once a month or less 103 1.20 03-Several times a month 39 0.52 04-About once a week 25 0.33 05-Several times a week 11 0.12 06-Almost everyday 7 0.06 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-212 ______________________________________________________________________________ 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 297 3.51 5098-5099 E1105J j. getting along with other family members Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 508 6.06 02-Once a month or less 114 1.55 03-Several times a month 38 0.43 04-About once a week 19 0.26 05-Several times a week 8 0.08 06-Almost everyday 19 0.22 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 293 3.47 5100 E1106 Q.6 During the past 30 days, how often did you have an especially enjoyable time with him/her? Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 0-Never 39 0.48 1-Once a month or less 109 1.36 2-Several times a month 155 1.87 3-About once a week 112 1.35 4-Several times a week 124 1.56 5-Almost everyday 165 1.96 6-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 8-Don't know 3 0.04 9-No answer 292 3.44 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-213 ______________________________________________________________________________ 5101 E1107 Q.7 During the past month, how often did you argue or fight or have a lot of difficulty dealing with him/her? Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 0-Never 457 5.60 1-Once a month or less 176 2.15 2-Several times a month 37 0.44 3-About once a week 16 0.21 4-Several times a week 12 0.13 5-Almost every day 10 0.09 6-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 9-No answer 291 3.44 5102 E1108 Q.8 Does he/she have any DEFINITE plans to live elsewhere in the future? Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 1-Yes 289 3.52 2-No 401 4.93 6-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 8-Don't know 10 0.06 9-No answer 299 3.54 5103-5105 E1109R Q.9 How long do you expect him/her to continue to live here with you? (converted to months) Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 000-less than one month 32 0.38 001-002 29 0.30 003-005 32 0.39 006-008 25 0.33 009-011 9 0.13 012-017 112 1.34 024-035 88 1.17 036-047 35 0.44 048-059 11 0.13 060+ 47 0.60 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-214 ______________________________________________________________________________ 994-No specific amount of time 16 0.24 995-Indefinitely/long time 76 0.86 (till death of one or other) 996-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 998-Don't know 127 1.46 999-No answer 360 4.27 Q.10 There are various ways that parents deal with serious disagreements with their sons or daughters. How often do you handle disagreements with him/her in the following ways... 5106-5107 E1110A a. just keep your opinions to yourself Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 179 2.07 02-Seldom 169 2.08 03-Sometimes 250 3.12 04-Very often 80 0.95 06-No disagreements 2 0.02 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 319 3.81 5108-5109 E1110B b. discuss your disagreements calmly Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 54 0.56 02-Seldom 81 1.13 03-Sometimes 288 3.41 04-Very often 262 3.22 06-No disagreements 1 0.01 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 98-Don't know 1 0.01 99-No answer 312 3.71 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-215 ______________________________________________________________________________ 5110-5111 E1110C c. argue heatedly or shout at each other Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 413 5.07 02-Seldom 162 1.93 03-Sometimes 90 1.14 04-Very often 15 0.13 06-No disagreements 1 0.01 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 98-Don't know 1 0.01 99-No answer 317 3.76 5112-5113 E1110D d. end up hitting or throwing things at each other Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 01-Never 661 8.01 02-Seldom 9 0.11 03-Sometimes 6 0.08 04-Very often 1 0.00 06-No disagreements 1 0.01 96-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 99-No answer 321 3.84 5114 E1111 Q.11 Sometimes family arguments become physical. During the last year has this happened in arguments between you and him/her? Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 1-Yes 27 0.36 2-No 665 8.08 6-Inapplicable 12018 87.94 9-No answer 307 3.62 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-216 ______________________________________________________________________________ 5115 E1112 Q.12 During the past year, how many fights with this son or daughter resulted in YOU hitting, shoving, or throwing things at him/her? Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 0-None 35 0.47 1-One 6 0.06 2-Two 3 0.02 6-Inapplicable 12691 96.15 9-No answer 282 3.30 5116 E1113 Q.13 During the past year, how many fights with this son or daughter resulted in HIM/HER hitting, shoving, or throwing things at you? Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 0-None 36 0.45 1-One 5 0.07 4-Four or more fights 1 0.01 6-Inapplicable 12691 96.15 9-No answer 284 3.32 5117 E1114 Q.14 Have YOU ever been cut, bruised, or seriously injured in a fight with this son or daughter? Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 1-Yes 2 0.02 2-No 39 0.51 6-Inapplicable 12691 96.15 9-No answer 285 3.33 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-217 ______________________________________________________________________________ 5118 E1115 Q.15 Has this SON or DAUGHTER been cut, bruised, or seriously injured in a fight with you? Unweighted Weighted Frequency Percent 1-Yes 3 0.03 2-No 39 0.51 6-Inapplicable 12691 96.15 9-No answer 284 3.32 NSFH/30 January 90 Page E-218 ______________________________________________________________________________